Welcome to Purple Introspections
We are Francie and Tony. Purple Introspections is a tender reflection of our living journey, as blindsided parents of an amazing son lost to suicide at age 23. We hope sharing our stories will open your mind to meaningful discoveries, inspire those who are suffering with us, and most importantly, save a life.
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The Chosen One
Francie did not want a cat. She’s ambivalent about pets and didn’t grow up with them. But our eldest son knew better and gifted us an SPCA adoption fee and a kitty carrier for Christmas. And that’s why Reggie the kitten happened into our lives in February. So why...
The Beast of Burden
I bet she doesn’t have a care in the world with a high-paying job. I wish I didn’t worry. He’s so happy with so many friends, wow. I want to be him. I wish I had friends. So many people are smarter than me. I’ll never be successful. I won’t stick around the party;...
Give Me Love
One of the ways I process our situation is to write to our dear son in a special journal, dedicated to him. If I’m missing him, I sit down to write. Listening to music while I pour my thoughts onto the page can elevate the closeness with him. I have a playlist of...
Under Pressure
It’s there. You can feel it. It’s there all the time. It’s unrelenting, ever-present. Most of the time it sits on you like an uneasy, invisible elephant. We try to pretend it’s not there and “get on with it.” Acknowledge. Move on. Life’s unrelenting pressures...
Purple Dragons
One of the ways I stay close to my son is to be on the lookout for signs. I may not always be conscious of how to direct my attention, as in telling myself, “Today, I will look for signs.” It just happens. I’m a noticer though. if you have visions in your head, say...
What We Wish We Knew.
Our number one mission for creating this website is to prevent the tragedy we experienced, from happening to someone else. The number one question we asked ourselves was why? As would anyone in our case. We had thoughts consuming our minds, but were swirling in...
Musical Connections
Music and tragedy are mysteriously intertwined. Familiar songs you may have been listening to for years, maybe decades, suddenly take on a deeper meaning. These songs bond you to your fallen loved ones in a deep, soulful manner that only those who have...
Three Little Birds
Our ongoing message for this blog will always be love, whether a direct reference or a driving force behind a post. We have a Valentine's message to share, a song that we know was from our son, sent to comfort and calm us. Music is his way of saying something, his...
Purple Introspections
A vibe. That’s how I operate. I get a gut-feeling or spidey-feel and I know I’m on to something. It’s the spidey-feel that give me the answers, or to lets me know I’m on the right track. The gut feeling is more of a warning. Tingles up my arm, hair standing on end...
You Are Loved
Yes you are. You. Are. Loved. That’s the critical piece we think our son believed was missing for him. If someone could feel so black, so isolated amid parents, family, friends, professors, and mentors who loved him and either be unaware or believe it was not...
